I would be closer to the latter. sorry. I part ways with you on this one.
I shocked the shit out of One today by disclosing that some of my most favorite children in the whole wide world were the kids that I had in Sex Offenders group. yes. children. who are sex offenders.
now obviously, I wouldn't let them around MY kids unattended (some of them, not even attended. not even with a Silence of the Lamb-type mask and straight jacket getup.).......but yeah. they were my faves.
actually, when I'm in public it is generally the PARENTS of other children that annoy me. the mother who says "no" and then as soon as the kid starts crying she hands him/her candy........she gets a cold dagger stare from me.
But I do hate pets and plants. I mean, they're fine for other people. I just don't want them in my house. ugh.
Mr Lady
· 1 year ago
With the exception of a few, I REALLY don't like other people's kids. And have said that time and time again.
I hate other people's kids. I love my three, but other peoples, not so much...
I can't even stand taking my kids to the park where other peoples offspring are about. Once we went to the park and this little boy was spitting on all of the other kids in his general area. His mother was watching him do this and she said nothing to him. We don't go to the park anymore...
What's that? A play date? Forget that shit. We don't do that either.
Other mothers despise me... :-[
Ashley
· 1 year ago
I can't say that I love ALL children...but I like a good number of them. What bugs me is undisciplined kids that are rude and disrespectful. Of course, now that I say this, karma is probably going to kick my ass...
9 times out of 10, if my initial reaction to a kid is one of dislike, it's the PARENT that I actually dislike. Conversely, if it's a parent I like, the kid gets a whole lot more leeway with me.
I like funny kids. Not malicious, mean, kind of funny, just genuinely funny. I just happen to have 2 of them. (Biased? Why yes, yes I am. I think my objectivity went into the trash along with the placentas.)
I have three kids and 2 of them are teens. I don't like teens, but I have to deal with mine. Teens are know it alls you know. Younger kids are cool with me and I can hang out with and play with them all day long. So, no I don't like your teenagers. Can you believe I'm thinking of coaching my job's 13 and 14 year old summer basketball team next year. It's will be a long summer...
In general, I do like other people's kids as long as I don't have to babysit them, wipe their noses and butts or feed them. I have met other people's kids I can barely tolerate, though.
I don't mind other peoples kids as long as I have nothing to do with them. So really, I guess I like them in theory. Reality is a different thing. I have been known to like children that weren't my spawn, but they are few and far between. My kids are teenagers, thank god they have good senses of humour, or I wouldn't like them, either.
Half-Past Kissin' Time
· 1 year ago
Well, being a teacher, I have to say that I like most kids (but really, I do). It's the parents of the bratty kids that I can't stand. My own kids are wonderful (13 and 16), and anyone who knows them will tell you that. Good kids are no accident. They are not born to "lucky" parents. They are raised.
I like my kid... but shes four months old and fricking cute. Some kids are alright. But generally? Yeah I dont like other peoples kids. Even some of my friends' kids. Like, I'd never hit my kid, but oooh, I'd like to hit someone elses kid, if no one was looking.
I worked in daycare and plan on doing it again as soon as my Dutch is good enough. I love children until they hit about 7 or 8. After that I loathe most of them. As soon as they learn how to lie well, get an attitude or start feeling like they know as much as me....I find them hideous. I was hoping motherhood would change that in me...but now I see that it very well might not.
I hate other peoples' kids. All kids, all ages, except babies. I love other peoples' babies because then I can hold them and snuggle them and give them back to their parents when their diapers are dirty.
I'm actually very uncomfortable around children. I don't know how to talk to them. I'd rather just ignore them.
I admit freely! Especially my In-Law's kids. IMHO they don't know how to raise, control, discipline or handle them.
I seem to be the only one who has them in check because they get's no ooohs and awwws from me. And their oldest? That little bastard, if he were mine? His ass would be mine.
So if I have that feeling towards family you can imagine what I think about other kids who are not related....
Now my kids? They have their quirks, but in my world, they are the best kids on the planet.... hands down.
Well, how's this: I can't stand my daughter's BEST FRIEND. I cringe everytime I have to have the kid over for a playdate. She's just spoiled, bitchy, demanding... ugh. But she makes my daughter happy, so what can you do?
@Avitable: You like mine. You just don't know it yet. *brandishes weapone*
Jenee
· 1 year ago
I'm going to tell Alex you said that. And instruct him to promptly kick you in the shin. Then smile at your with his adorable dimples and give you the finger.
Wow, this is a very very ugly post. What did those kids ever do to you?
I'm fairly petulant when it comes to kids (especially babies ... they cry too much). But that being said, you cannot hate or fault a child for their parents' inability to teach them manners or raise them properly. Hate the ignorant parent, not the toddler who only knows to do what its parent lets it get away with.
You have perfect kids? Close to perfect kids? Hmm...
I guarantee you that those horrid children you speak of probably have parents who think that their child is a perfect little angel. That being said, you're beyond biased to say that your children are "perfect." Cute as they may be.
I say you are full of it.
If you really believe them to be "perfect" or as close to "perfect" as possible now, good luck. When they fall from grace, as all people do at one point, and topple the unrealistic pedastal you have placed them on, then you will fall hard with them. You're in for a rude awakening.
Finally, doesn't you talking about how "perfect" or almost "perfect" your children are put you in the same realm as the BRAGGARTS (oh my kids are so great) and POSEURS (look at me the bearer of "pefect" children) that you berated in one of your recent posts?
Perhaps you should have been looking in the mirror when you wrote that. Or perhaps you already were.
That post was definately hilarious. However, in light of this post, I find it to be quite ironic and now even more hilarious. In some parts of the world, you may be considered to be a hypocrite.
Do not worry. I will brace myself for the "I don't give a F$*k" rant, or a similar one with you screaming other explitives at me.
Betsey
· 1 year ago
Oh please, I've said this same shit a million times and gave up feeling bad about it a long time ago.
I can't stand other people's kids. And I get the skin crawling thing. Kids suck.
Ones that aren't my own or that I'm not related too, or just purely awesome kids because there are a few out there.
And just so you know, I don't scream. I'm not a screamer. Picture whatever words from me directed at you said in a very calm, very 'i-don't-give-a-fuck' tone of voice.
Somebody wrote: "actually, when I’m in public it is generally the PARENTS of other children that annoy me. the mother who says “no” and then as soon as the kid starts crying she hands him/her candy……..she gets a cold dagger stare from me."
That is how I am. IMHO it is those parents who ruin their children. I blame them.
I used to work with children, so I have seen the good, the bad, and the ugly from them and their ignorant parents.
Little boys who touch little girls who just so happen to come from chauvinistic fathers. Little girls who scream and yell for everything that they want who just so happen to have an ill tempered mother who screams for everything she wants.
I'm not saying that all kids are angels. That's just stupid and as delusional as thinking that one's own child is "perfect." You have some children who are just mean little you know whats despite coming from intelligent and well equipped parents. Some kids just have that personality. Some kids just will not listen. More times than not, I found that that bad little boy/girl came from bad little ignorant parents who have no clue as to how to raise a child to be an upstanding and decent individual. Some parents don't have the patience, some parents won't put in the time, some parents don't have the know how.
They (kids) shouldn't be snarled at by ADULTS ... ADULTS ... because they have idiot parents.
leendaluu
· 1 year ago
We've been hanging out at the town pool quite a bit lately and I have to say, I kind of agree with you....
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LordofDance
· 1 year ago
Refreshing. Now that we have that out of the way, could you answer my question?
Do you feel that you are indeed one of the Braggarts and-or Poseurs that you spoke of?
I am now just attempting to confirm your hypocrisy so that I can fully be aware of who I'm dealing with.
From reading your posts, I'm quite positive that you are self delusional, angry in general, unhappy, and disappointed with yourself. Though I am sure that your perpetual self deluding will not allow you to admit to your inner anger, overall unhappiness, and disappointment with yourself.
If your children are truly perfect, then you wouldn't have to say it.
Nobody's kids is half as perfect as they WANT or NEED them to be. The more unhappy you are with yourself and your sation in life, the more you will want and NEED for your child to be perfect. Soon, you'll start to believe it despite the truth.
This is even more evident with women because we are put under so much pressure (by society) to be perfect ourselves. We can't live up to it, so we for some reason project those same expectations/beliefs onto our children.
I'm not claiming to know how successful you are in your chosen career, so please don't mistake what I am saying. Even successful individuals can be unhappy and put unrealistic titles (perfect) or expectations (being perfect) on their children to compensate for their own shortcomings.
Maybe if they are perfect, they can be everything that you are not right? At least that's the logic that many parents seem to have.
Natalie
· 1 year ago
Kids (other than my own) freak me the fuck out. Well, he freaks me out sometimes too, but I love him, so it's a different kind of freak out.
I never babysat as a teenager, had no desire to. I don't know how to handle most children even though they seem to be drawn to me. I was really afraid that I wouldn't know what to do with my son when he was born because I literally had ZERO experience with infants. I worked for Discovery Zone (remember that?) my senior year of high school and guess how that worked out? Worst. job. ever.
When I say that I admire teachers, I REALLY mean it. Having to deal with other peoples little minions takes a special person.
I love all children in theory, I just don't care to be around them, with the exception of mine and a few others. I do believe they are the future and all that jazz.
It is not a parental thing for me, you could put the best behaved kid in the world in front of me and I'm still going to get squirmy. I think, for me, it's the lack of experience with children other than my own that makes me uncomfortable.
My child isn't perfect, but he's perfect for me. Man, I love that little booger.
And yes, your children are absolute dolls and I bet they are well behaved, they have a mamma that won't take shit from anybody. I've always thought that you are probably a fantastic mom.
Tiffany
· 1 year ago
I TRY to like all kids but some of them are just plain badasses. And those kids make my son look like an angel. I love kids but after getting, yes getting people, I adopted, my own child I go to birthday parties and am totally shocked at how other kids act. Mostly the ones that the parents ignore and don't even look after. So I KINDA like most kids but not all. And geez Maria quit rubbing it in my face about how your kids are perfect.
Do I think that my last blog post applies to me? Yes, in this instance. And for the record, when I mentioned introspection, I was referring to myself as well.
Obviously, you are harping one <span style="text-decoration: underline;">tongue in cheek</span> statement made. No, my children are not perfect. They are not even close to it. As we speak, Ari is attempting to once again sneak over to the mirror and complete her crayon masterpiece and Bella taking the sheets off of her bed because she had another accident.
But I raise them. I discipline them. I respect them. I love them. I make sure they have everything they need in every way, in every aspect of their lives and I am doing my damndest of ensure they they are some of the nicest, most polite, honest and engaging children anyone could meet. They are so naturally, so I cannot take all the credit, but I do allow myself some. That's probably where the bragging comes in.
I do not expect anything out of them except what they give me. So you are very wrong to assume that I am pressuring them to be something that I am not out of my own issues. Disappointment is something that I have already realized as a young parent, and I'm sure they will disappoint me in the future but it doesn't matter. Here's hoping that they at least know that no matter what, even if, entity-forbid, they end up strung out hookers with 10 kids and abusive husbands that they know that they are still to me, and to their father - the most perfect little people on this planet. I believe that all parents should believe these things about their children.
I do not think I am self deluded. Maybe I am, outsiders always have keener eyes. Am I unhappy? Oh yes, very much so. Am I where I think I should be in life? No, not at all. If you'd read the 'Prologue' page [it's called that for a reason] you'd see how I explain myself. Actually, the second to last paragraph covers briefly, but accurately, how my own personal things influence my parenting.
You need not be deluded into believing that you know how or who I am as a person based on a few blog entries. Twenty four years can not be summed in just over 100 posts. I open myself up to judgment with this blog, but it should be assumed that what you think of me is not valid, or important really, since you don't know me.
But, yes, I'm a total hypocrite, I'm very angry, and unhappy/disappointed/potentially deluded/blah blah blah. I'm a person with flaws and faults, and I've never acted as if I wasn't. :)
I don't like other people's children. You talk in terms as if I wish them horrible deaths or something. I just don't like them. The same way I don't like waterbugs. Yes, I equated children with roaches. It has really nothing to do with the parents, because while I vehemently dislike bad kids, good kids aren't really any better. Many people don't like children. It's not uncommon. I just happen to be a mother, who doesn't like children.
Alright. So I hope this answered your question, and addressed any concerns you may have had. Let me know if I forgot anything.
Nickoal
· 1 year ago
There are some kids that I can't stand...especially the ones that are unbearably bratty and obnoxious... But your kids are cute, and my kid is cute, and of course the well behaved ones don't bother me too much...
I know of three children I like besides my own. That's it. Now, my son has two friends I really enjoy having around, but they are all teenaged boy and therefore are in a different category of their own. the funny thing is that kids love ME. At the daycare when I go drop Owen off, they throng around me like I am Jesus and am getting ready to bestow them with great blessings. Whereas the only blessing they will get from me is that I am not going to deck them-it's illegal.
It's not that I don't like other people's children, I just don't find all children particularly adorable. It sounds horrible and terribly biased (because obviously my son is freakin' cute), but it's honest.
I know all babies grow into their good looks, but I hate when I feel obligated to say "Awww, she's so cute!" When really the baby isn't all that adorable. So I never say it if I don't mean it. I'll usually say something like, "she's so smiley...what a pretty dress" or something generic.
I'm rotten. I know this.
LordofDance
· 1 year ago
Finally we get to some truth. It apparently needed to be pulled out of you, but we have it now. I am glad that you can admit to being a hypocrite among other things.
You say that it was tounge in cheek, but I'm going to just have to agree to disagree with you there.
So whether you are now changing your tune or what you are saying now (not what you originally said) about their perfection is the actual truth, then I am also glad that you can admit that publicly and proudly stating that your children are perfect is quite the absurd assertation.
Karlena
· 1 year ago
I, too, dislike other people's children. I especially detest the bad ones. Sometimes I just wanna punch them (oh man did I just type that) ... well, not them, maybe just their parents for allowing them to get so bad.
But no, I only like Coco and *some* of my friends' kids. And I'm damn proud of it.
Mama Zen
· 1 year ago
I adore kids . . . until they give me a reason not to!
oh i had a huge sarcastic comment. making a lot of fun of lord of something. but then i realized i could not be arsed with the discourse. so now i'm just leaving boring shit here. i'm so sorry. really, i am boring-up your comment box. i don't want to. i'll stop now.
it turns out i'm in between. i love kids. i just don't *instantly* love them. i warm to them. and not quickly.
I don't have to change my tune ON MY OWN BLOG. Just like I can say fuck just as much as I'd like. This is my space. My blog.
If you don't like what's said here, feel free to disagree and when you make what I feel like is a valid point, I'll respond. As long as you don't attack the other commentators, your presence and opinions will always be welcome and even encouraged.
There's a fine line, I believe. Most of the time, if the child doesn't have the same type of discipline, respect, and decision making ability that I have instilled in my children, I tend to not like them so much. There are just some parents out there that don't do their part. It's usually their kids that make me go cray-cray.
My kids aren't perfect, but they are extremely likable :-P . Apples and trees, yo!
first of all, i'm almost laughing too hard to respond. lol second.... sometimes other people's kids really suck. and it's like the parents are completely oblivious to their suckiness. i'd rather play with other people's puppies than their kids. ha
Before I had kids I didn't like other people's kids. AT ALL. Now that I have kids I understand other kids better, so I'm nicer. But I still don't like other people's kids unless they are really well behaved.
I couldn't agree more. I cannot stand some people's children so much that I can't hang out with the parents, that I like, bc I know the kids will be there! I think a lot of it is how the parents handle situtations and how uncomfortable it is when the parent is there, but won't parent and puts you in such an akward spot.
I love all teenagers. Especially the awkward, emo, anti-social, delinquent, oddball, freaky ones.
The rest? Not so much.
Burgh Baby
· 1 year ago
I love SOME other people's kids, but not many of them. Nearly all--actually, I take that back--ALL of my nieces and nephews fall into the Don't Like category. Being a ungrateful whiny little brat lands you in that category real quick.
Kristie
· 1 year ago
Hmmm. Well, on the one hand, I genuinely do like all of my friends' children (and of course my nieces).
On the other hand, I can't stand it when I'm out with my child and some other random kid comes up to me and talks/dances/plays with me when I'd rather be talking/dancing/playing with my own kid, having adult conversation with a friend, or just wanting to be left alone. Then the parent of said child, if s/he's paying attention at all, just sits there and smiles adoringly instead of interjecting and getting their kid the hell away from me.
That's annoying. I don't like that kid.
Honestly, though, aside from some of my former students, I don't dislike many children. At worst, I am indifferent to them.
I can't say I like all kids. But I certainly like most kids. I have run across a few mini Spawns of Satan that I would be happy to duct tape into place, but for the most part well-mannered kids are fine with me for short periods of time. I know, I can just tell, I'd love your kids. Look at them. Who wouldn't?
I was never a kid person before having my own... I find that I am more "tolerant" to kids now, but I still like my own best.. oh and yours are super cute too!
I used to like kids a lot. I was a babysitter, a nanny, a daycare center worker and a kindergarten teacher, and I loved working w/ kids. Of course there were a few really bad ones that I couldn't stand, but for the most part I liked 'em all. Then I had my own beautiful, perfect (YEP, that's right, PERFECT;)) little baby and I started liking other people's kids LESS! I still like kids that are polite, cute, nice, clean, well behaved, etc. BUT I now have zero tolerance for rude little brats, especially dirty ones. Yick. I don't want them near my little one. I don't want them to touch her or be mean to her or rub any of their nasty little behaviors off on her. AND I am 100% w/ Kristie...I get REALLY annoyed these days when random kids come up and want to play with/talk to/bug me when I am trying to spend time w/ my own kid. It happens A LOT and it gets on my last damn nerve.
Temple
· 1 year ago
I just don't like people, so children, being a subset of "people" are not high on my list of favorite things.
anglophilefootballfanatic
· 1 year ago
I love most babies, I tolerate most toddlers, but when they are a bit older and total brats? I don't like them. I also blame their parents for not parenting. If a kid pisses me off, it's all I can do not to whap! spank them a few good times.
MomoFali
· 1 year ago
I'll admit it. My Mom doesn't even believe me when I tell her that I love my own.
I agree. Mostly. There are a select few children I adore, and they are raised well. I expect children to behave a certain way. And when they dont, I cant stand them.
My child is fucking awesome and she is SUCH a sassy little thing, but very very lovable. Thankfully she is a well liked kid. So I am super lucky there.
Actually I have a new friend. Her son is my daughters classmate. She thinks I am too harsh with Bella. Sorry but I have standards. She is too quiet spoken and lenient with her two kids (5 and 3). They piss their pants all the time even though she asks if they need to go to the washroom. they tell her they hate her, though she is obvs a nice mom. She gives in all the time.
Then again, I dont need to be well liked as a parent. Just well respected by my child and children that are in my presence. Im respectful, therefore yadda yadda
Its simple, yet not many parents understand that.
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Joe
· 1 year ago
I don't mind other people's kids because of one reason...I will tell you to straighten your kid up if he/she is acting up around me. I have yelled at random people's kids and had the parents try to say shit to me only to get dealt with the same way their kids just got it. Yeah, they are annoying and I usually would prefer to not be around them, but if I have to be, I will say something.
Jill
· 1 year ago
In my opinion kids are like any other people...some are cool and some are complete assholes.
I do have to say, I can't stand hanging out with people who are "all about the kids." Nothing freaks me out more than non-stop child centered activiites.
Sometimes they need to play, (in another room) while the adults have grown up conversation.
I don't have kids, but I grew up being the oldest of 8... and I know that if my parents could keep us well-behaved and polite, then the bitch in the restaurant should be able to keep her TWO kids quiet as well.
first of all, don't agree with me b/c I don't like you.
second of all, I said nothing of calling parents "idiots" and so forth. I said that it annoys me. I know that such behavior comes from misguided efforts (and you should too if you're such a child expert). I understand that we all do things the way that we know how. My way may not make any sense to anyone else and it may be annoying to others. That does not make me an idiot or vice versa.
you on the other hand........
Rebecca
· 1 year ago
I used to love other people's children. SO much that I opened a daycare center. 6 years of that...I hate them now.Well, not HATE,exactly but along those same lines. The bad thing is,because I have so many of my own Spawn and I seem to put forth that nurturing Earth-Mother-Goddess persona, people seem to think I want to love and cherish and snuggle their babies and I really,really don't.
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María | Blissed
· 1 year ago
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Tara R.
· 1 year ago
I used to teach martial arts to kids age 6-12. Most them I could tolerate, but there were a few who were little shits and their parents were even bigger shits. It was all I could do to not smack them (and their parents) upside their heads every time I saw them.
I have to say I love kids. Mine and those of others. They made me a lot of money as a teenager. I babysat for the entire street. I owe em for the boat I was able to buy in 7th grade. It was a small boat, but a boat all the same. But I can say that even boatless, I still do love kids. They make me laugh. Grownups don't. Well, most don't.
I like MOST kids. but if the kids are unruly or rude, it's usually the parents I don't want to hang out with because they didn't get that way on their own.
I've always admitted it - other peoples' kids annoy the shit out of me. You're just flat-out more tolerant when it's your own flesh and blood. And to the person up there who was calling you hypocritical - wtf?! Who the hell ISN'T hypocritical?! I don't know a single person who doesn't contradict themselves constantly - that's just human nature. There's the obvious that kids are a product of their parents, but still - that doesn't make me like the kids any more, knowing that. DUH - it's not necessarily the kids' fault that they're complete little shitheads, but they are still a complete shithead, and that isn't something most people would choose to be around. Also, I find it funny that with all their experience, they say: " You have some children who are just mean little you know whats despite coming from intelligent and well equipped parents. " > I call that a contradiction. My mom is a teacher. She's tried for YEARS to get me to be one, too - but I know this - I don't have the fricking patience and I simply do NOT like all kids unconditionally, so teaching is not where I belong. She finally listened to me and dropped it. The beauty of it is, differences are what make this world so great, and sometimes that even includes intolerance, as shitty as that may be.
i hate pretty much all kids in general. i don't have my own... so maybe that makes a difference... but man. they creep me out. i especially don't want to touch them. i prefer dogs. i'd rather ruin my carpet than my life.
Captain Steve
· 1 year ago
I don't dislike kids, I fear them. Babies more specifically. Once they're old enough to run around and get into trouble with their parents, I can deal because they're less breakable. But fragile, tiny little babies I will not touch.
Whoa girl are we related? Because you must be from my clan. NONE of my family really loves kids. My mom, my aunt, and my grandmother all told their children that they wished they never had them. My mom hated children so much that she tried not having me (I'll leave it at that) and after another child (rip), she immediately had a hysterrecotomy (sp?). She was 24. I can't believe a doctor agreed to do it.
Oh and my cousins and others have decided to NEVER have children.
Me? I swear I'm adopted. I LOVE kids. Unless they roll their beady eyes to the back of their heads when I'm talking to them.
*Smack!*
And yours? I want to eat them with a spoon, they are so damn adorable. Beware.
Me, the not so maternal type. I'm no the koochy-coo mommy; although now I'll smile at the occasional really cute baby or toddler. But as they get older, not so much. I just have no patience, and barely enough for my own kids.
I bet I'd keep smiling at your kids even as they grow. But the exception, rather than the rule. Honestly.
I love my kids, really really like my nieces and nephews and want to throttle everyone else's.
Except yours.
janethesane
· 1 year ago
I fall in the middle. I don't like every kid, but I like lots of them. Mine happens to be a sweet angel and I am SURE you would like her.
Now adults...them I hate. Most of them. Years and years of doing technical support over the phone with the dregs of humanity have taught me that most people are either stupid or mean or both.
I'm just reading this now so am commenting later than most.
I agree with many who responded re the kids I dislike are the ones who are being poorly parented. I'm reading the book "Generation Me". Those born in 70's, 80s, and 90s are in this self centred, individualistic generation and we are breeding "Generation Me Me ME". It's an interesting read so far. I don't agree with all of it...there are some good points about individualism that I don't see any wrong about... but I digress.
I can't stand a lot of kids these days because of their sense of entitlement being ingrained in them. It never ceases to amaze me how kids these days question authority. They are taught they are perfect, can do anything etc. They are praised without having done ANYTHING other THAN having been born. I can't get over how kids these days question adults. I said 'no' to kids who wanted to go in my potentially dangerous backyard while we went out. What ensued was a battery of questions about "why" and why not. I rolled my eyes and thought 'here they go again' and just said "because I said so" and drove off. WTF should I have to defend my answer and get into a discussion with 8 year olds. It is also an ungrateful bunch of kids (goes hand in hand with the entitlement). We gave one of them a birthday gift. He saw us approaching the party and ran up to me, grabbed the gift without so much as a hello. He opened it, tossed it aside and went running off with his friends. These are the kids I don't like.
As for people, you or anyone else, liking my kids...I don't really care if you do. If you don't, then stay away from my kids and it's a win-win situation. I don't think mine are perfect, but I also see that they are not being raised as those mentioned above. They are respectful of adults and authority and have pretty decent manners on top of it. They also get along with their peers. So if anyone doesn't like them, carry on with your own business and leave us to ours!
Izzy
· 1 year ago
Ha — I was just saying the other day, I think to my husband, that I really don't care for other people's kids at all. They annoy me a LOT. I mean, so do my own but that's different because I happen to love them.
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I shocked the shit out of One today by disclosing that some of my most favorite children in the whole wide world were the kids that I had in Sex Offenders group. yes. children. who are sex offenders.
now obviously, I wouldn't let them around MY kids unattended (some of them, not even attended. not even with a Silence of the Lamb-type mask and straight jacket getup.).......but yeah. they were my faves.
actually, when I'm in public it is generally the PARENTS of other children that annoy me. the mother who says "no" and then as soon as the kid starts crying she hands him/her candy........she gets a cold dagger stare from me.
But I do hate pets and plants. I mean, they're fine for other people. I just don't want them in my house. ugh.
And you're right. Yours are pretty damn cute. :)
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I can't even stand taking my kids to the park where other peoples offspring are about. Once we went to the park and this little boy was spitting on all of the other kids in his general area. His mother was watching him do this and she said nothing to him. We don't go to the park anymore...
What's that? A play date? Forget that shit. We don't do that either.
Other mothers despise me... :-[
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I like funny kids. Not malicious, mean, kind of funny, just genuinely funny. I just happen to have 2 of them. (Biased? Why yes, yes I am. I think my objectivity went into the trash along with the placentas.)
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I have been known to like children that weren't my spawn, but they are few and far between.
My kids are teenagers, thank god they have good senses of humour, or I wouldn't like them, either.
other kids' parents? hardly ever :-)
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Some kids are alright. But generally? Yeah I dont like other peoples kids. Even some of my friends' kids. Like, I'd never hit my kid, but oooh, I'd like to hit someone elses kid, if no one was looking.
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I'm actually very uncomfortable around children. I don't know how to talk to them. I'd rather just ignore them.
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I seem to be the only one who has them in check because they get's no ooohs and awwws from me. And their oldest? That little bastard, if he were mine? His ass would be mine.
So if I have that feeling towards family you can imagine what I think about other kids who are not related....
Now my kids? They have their quirks, but in my world, they are the best kids on the planet.... hands down.
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I'm a teacher. I can't stand kids, sometimes!
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I'm fairly petulant when it comes to kids (especially babies ... they cry too much). But that being said, you cannot hate or fault a child for their parents' inability to teach them manners or raise them properly. Hate the ignorant parent, not the toddler who only knows to do what its parent lets it get away with.
You have perfect kids? Close to perfect kids? Hmm...
I guarantee you that those horrid children you speak of probably have parents who think that their child is a perfect little angel. That being said, you're beyond biased to say that your children are "perfect." Cute as they may be.
I say you are full of it.
If you really believe them to be "perfect" or as close to "perfect" as possible now, good luck. When they fall from grace, as all people do at one point, and topple the unrealistic pedastal you have placed them on, then you will fall hard with them. You're in for a rude awakening.
Finally, doesn't you talking about how "perfect" or almost "perfect" your children are put you in the same realm as the BRAGGARTS (oh my kids are so great) and POSEURS (look at me the bearer of "pefect" children) that you berated in one of your recent posts?
Perhaps you should have been looking in the mirror when you wrote that. Or perhaps you already were.
That post was definately hilarious. However, in light of this post, I find it to be quite ironic and now even more hilarious. In some parts of the world, you may be considered to be a hypocrite.
Do not worry. I will brace myself for the "I don't give a F$*k" rant, or a similar one with you screaming other explitives at me.
I can't stand other people's kids. And I get the skin crawling thing. Kids suck.
Ones that aren't my own or that I'm not related too, or just purely awesome kids because there are a few out there.
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Yeah?
Good:
I don't give a fuck.
And just so you know, I don't scream. I'm not a screamer. Picture whatever words from me directed at you said in a very calm, very 'i-don't-give-a-fuck' tone of voice.
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That is how I am. IMHO it is those parents who ruin their children. I blame them.
I used to work with children, so I have seen the good, the bad, and the ugly from them and their ignorant parents.
Little boys who touch little girls who just so happen to come from chauvinistic fathers. Little girls who scream and yell for everything that they want who just so happen to have an ill tempered mother who screams for everything she wants.
I'm not saying that all kids are angels. That's just stupid and as delusional as thinking that one's own child is "perfect." You have some children who are just mean little you know whats despite coming from intelligent and well equipped parents. Some kids just have that personality. Some kids just will not listen. More times than not, I found that that bad little boy/girl came from bad little ignorant parents who have no clue as to how to raise a child to be an upstanding and decent individual. Some parents don't have the patience, some parents won't put in the time, some parents don't have the know how.
They (kids) shouldn't be snarled at by ADULTS ... ADULTS ... because they have idiot parents.
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Do you feel that you are indeed one of the Braggarts and-or Poseurs that you spoke of?
I am now just attempting to confirm your hypocrisy so that I can fully be aware of who I'm dealing with.
From reading your posts, I'm quite positive that you are self delusional, angry in general, unhappy, and disappointed with yourself. Though I am sure that your perpetual self deluding will not allow you to admit to your inner anger, overall unhappiness, and disappointment with yourself.
If your children are truly perfect, then you wouldn't have to say it.
Nobody's kids is half as perfect as they WANT or NEED them to be. The more unhappy you are with yourself and your sation in life, the more you will want and NEED for your child to be perfect. Soon, you'll start to believe it despite the truth.
This is even more evident with women because we are put under so much pressure (by society) to be perfect ourselves. We can't live up to it, so we for some reason project those same expectations/beliefs onto our children.
I'm not claiming to know how successful you are in your chosen career, so please don't mistake what I am saying. Even successful individuals can be unhappy and put unrealistic titles (perfect) or expectations (being perfect) on their children to compensate for their own shortcomings.
Maybe if they are perfect, they can be everything that you are not right? At least that's the logic that many parents seem to have.
I never babysat as a teenager, had no desire to. I don't know how to handle most children even though they seem to be drawn to me. I was really afraid that I wouldn't know what to do with my son when he was born because I literally had ZERO experience with infants. I worked for Discovery Zone (remember that?) my senior year of high school and guess how that worked out? Worst. job. ever.
When I say that I admire teachers, I REALLY mean it. Having to deal with other peoples little minions takes a special person.
I love all children in theory, I just don't care to be around them, with the exception of mine and a few others. I do believe they are the future and all that jazz.
It is not a parental thing for me, you could put the best behaved kid in the world in front of me and I'm still going to get squirmy. I think, for me, it's the lack of experience with children other than my own that makes me uncomfortable.
My child isn't perfect, but he's perfect for me. Man, I love that little booger.
And yes, your children are absolute dolls and I bet they are well behaved, they have a mamma that won't take shit from anybody. I've always thought that you are probably a fantastic mom.
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Obviously, you are harping one <span style="text-decoration: underline;">tongue in cheek</span> statement made. No, my children are not perfect. They are not even close to it. As we speak, Ari is attempting to once again sneak over to the mirror and complete her crayon masterpiece and Bella taking the sheets off of her bed because she had another accident.
But I raise them. I discipline them. I respect them. I love them. I make sure they have everything they need in every way, in every aspect of their lives and I am doing my damndest of ensure they they are some of the nicest, most polite, honest and engaging children anyone could meet. They are so naturally, so I cannot take all the credit, but I do allow myself some. That's probably where the bragging comes in.
I do not expect anything out of them except what they give me. So you are very wrong to assume that I am pressuring them to be something that I am not out of my own issues. Disappointment is something that I have already realized as a young parent, and I'm sure they will disappoint me in the future but it doesn't matter. Here's hoping that they at least know that no matter what, even if, entity-forbid, they end up strung out hookers with 10 kids and abusive husbands that they know that they are still to me, and to their father - the most perfect little people on this planet. I believe that all parents should believe these things about their children.
I do not think I am self deluded. Maybe I am, outsiders always have keener eyes. Am I unhappy? Oh yes, very much so. Am I where I think I should be in life? No, not at all. If you'd read the 'Prologue' page [it's called that for a reason] you'd see how I explain myself. Actually, the second to last paragraph covers briefly, but accurately, how my own personal things influence my parenting.
You need not be deluded into believing that you know how or who I am as a person based on a few blog entries. Twenty four years can not be summed in just over 100 posts. I open myself up to judgment with this blog, but it should be assumed that what you think of me is not valid, or important really, since you don't know me.
But, yes, I'm a total hypocrite, I'm very angry, and unhappy/disappointed/potentially deluded/blah blah blah. I'm a person with flaws and faults, and I've never acted as if I wasn't. :)
I don't like other people's children. You talk in terms as if I wish them horrible deaths or something. I just don't like them. The same way I don't like waterbugs. Yes, I equated children with roaches. It has really nothing to do with the parents, because while I vehemently dislike bad kids, good kids aren't really any better. Many people don't like children. It's not uncommon. I just happen to be a mother, who doesn't like children.
Alright. So I hope this answered your question, and addressed any concerns you may have had. Let me know if I forgot anything.
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I know all babies grow into their good looks, but I hate when I feel obligated to say "Awww, she's so cute!" When really the baby isn't all that adorable. So I never say it if I don't mean it. I'll usually say something like, "she's so smiley...what a pretty dress" or something generic.
I'm rotten. I know this.
You say that it was tounge in cheek, but I'm going to just have to agree to disagree with you there.
So whether you are now changing your tune or what you are saying now (not what you originally said) about their perfection is the actual truth, then I am also glad that you can admit that publicly and proudly stating that your children are perfect is quite the absurd assertation.
But no, I only like Coco and *some* of my friends' kids. And I'm damn proud of it.
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My kids aren't perfect, but they are extremely likable :-P . Apples and trees, yo!
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second.... sometimes other people's kids really suck. and it's like the parents are completely oblivious to their suckiness.
i'd rather play with other people's puppies than their kids. ha
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On the other hand, I can't stand it when I'm out with my child and some other random kid comes up to me and talks/dances/plays with me when I'd rather be talking/dancing/playing with my own kid, having adult conversation with a friend, or just wanting to be left alone. Then the parent of said child, if s/he's paying attention at all, just sits there and smiles adoringly instead of interjecting and getting their kid the hell away from me.
That's annoying. I don't like that kid.
Honestly, though, aside from some of my former students, I don't dislike many children. At worst, I am indifferent to them.
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My child is fucking awesome and she is SUCH a sassy little thing, but very very lovable. Thankfully she is a well liked kid. So I am super lucky there.
Actually I have a new friend. Her son is my daughters classmate. She thinks I am too harsh with Bella. Sorry but I have standards.
She is too quiet spoken and lenient with her two kids (5 and 3). They piss their pants all the time even though she asks if they need to go to the washroom. they tell her they hate her, though she is obvs a nice mom. She gives in all the time.
Then again, I dont need to be well liked as a parent. Just well respected by my child and children that are in my presence. Im respectful, therefore yadda yadda
Its simple, yet not many parents understand that.
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I do have to say, I can't stand hanging out with people who are "all about the kids." Nothing freaks me out more than non-stop child centered activiites.
Sometimes they need to play, (in another room) while the adults have grown up conversation.
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second of all, I said nothing of calling parents "idiots" and so forth. I said that it annoys me. I know that such behavior comes from misguided efforts (and you should too if you're such a child expert). I understand that we all do things the way that we know how. My way may not make any sense to anyone else and it may be annoying to others. That does not make me an idiot or vice versa.
you on the other hand........
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And to the person up there who was calling you hypocritical - wtf?! Who the hell ISN'T hypocritical?! I don't know a single person who doesn't contradict themselves constantly - that's just human nature.
There's the obvious that kids are a product of their parents, but still - that doesn't make me like the kids any more, knowing that. DUH - it's not necessarily the kids' fault that they're complete little shitheads, but they are still a complete shithead, and that isn't something most people would choose to be around.
Also, I find it funny that with all their experience, they say: " You have some children who are just mean little you know whats despite coming from intelligent and well equipped parents. " > I call that a contradiction.
My mom is a teacher. She's tried for YEARS to get me to be one, too - but I know this - I don't have the fricking patience and I simply do NOT like all kids unconditionally, so teaching is not where I belong. She finally listened to me and dropped it.
The beauty of it is, differences are what make this world so great, and sometimes that even includes intolerance, as shitty as that may be.
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Oh and my cousins and others have decided to NEVER have children.
Me? I swear I'm adopted. I LOVE kids. Unless they roll their beady eyes to the back of their heads when I'm talking to them.
*Smack!*
And yours? I want to eat them with a spoon, they are so damn adorable. Beware.
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My kids? LOVE THEM.
Other peoples' kids (OPK)?
Mostly suck.
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Me, the not so maternal type. I'm no the koochy-coo mommy; although now I'll smile at the occasional really cute baby or toddler. But as they get older, not so much. I just have no patience, and barely enough for my own kids.
I bet I'd keep smiling at your kids even as they grow. But the exception, rather than the rule. Honestly.
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Except yours.
Now adults...them I hate. Most of them. Years and years of doing technical support over the phone with the dregs of humanity have taught me that most people are either stupid or mean or both.
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I agree with many who responded re the kids I dislike are the ones who are being poorly parented. I'm reading the book "Generation Me". Those born in 70's, 80s, and 90s are in this self centred, individualistic generation and we are breeding "Generation Me Me ME". It's an interesting read so far. I don't agree with all of it...there are some good points about individualism that I don't see any wrong about... but I digress.
I can't stand a lot of kids these days because of their sense of entitlement being ingrained in them. It never ceases to amaze me how kids these days question authority. They are taught they are perfect, can do anything etc. They are praised without having done ANYTHING other THAN having been born. I can't get over how kids these days question adults. I said 'no' to kids who wanted to go in my potentially dangerous backyard while we went out. What ensued was a battery of questions about "why" and why not. I rolled my eyes and thought 'here they go again' and just said "because I said so" and drove off. WTF should I have to defend my answer and get into a discussion with 8 year olds. It is also an ungrateful bunch of kids (goes hand in hand with the entitlement). We gave one of them a birthday gift. He saw us approaching the party and ran up to me, grabbed the gift without so much as a hello. He opened it, tossed it aside and went running off with his friends. These are the kids I don't like.
As for people, you or anyone else, liking my kids...I don't really care if you do. If you don't, then stay away from my kids and it's a win-win situation. I don't think mine are perfect, but I also see that they are not being raised as those mentioned above. They are respectful of adults and authority and have pretty decent manners on top of it. They also get along with their peers. So if anyone doesn't like them, carry on with your own business and leave us to ours!